Other than “because I said so!”
“Elbows off the table!”
is still ringing in our ears even decades out from under your parent’s or grandparent’s roof.
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So why, of all the offensive acts one could commit while dining, is it so forcefully policed?
Like mostetiquette rules, mealtime elbow placement is a holdover from a bygone era.
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Dining Table Etiquette
Why Did We Start Keeping Elbows off the Table?
For earlier civilizations, it was a way to prevent outbreaks of violence at the table.
“Table manners prevented us from leaving our space and starting a fight.
What Is a Reason This Etiquette Was Popular?
People like that were dangerous and capable of anything.
“People got scared when you started having bad manners,” Visser continued.
Are There Any Additional Reasons?
In most situations, it is a considerate thing to do.
Showing respect for the other people you share a table with starts with not crossing any boundaries.
How Does This Technique Help Dining Accommodations?
Think of it this way.
Whether you realize it or not, your elbows are likely encroaching on those around you.
Is it ever acceptable to have your elbows on a dinner table?
In a casual, familiar setting, it’s acceptable to do it every once in a while.
Etiquette queen Emily Post is known for happily eating with her elbows on the table from time to time.
“It really makes no difference,” she famously said.
