I know it’s possible to stage the weeping and rending of garments many miles from home.

Middle age brings with it more mourning experience.

Your friends' parents pass away.

Bloody Mary Poached Shrimp

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Why Southern Funerals Are Miracles

Southern funerals are miracles when you think about it.

But that’s part of the miracle too.

Ours was Aunt Patti.

Creamed-Corn Grits

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Every funeral has one, and the best part is that they will volunteer.

You, the family, don’t even have to ask.

Anyone canand willshow up at a Southern funeral, including your third-grade teacher.

BLT Pain Perdu Casserole

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I always thought these were dumb.

And I still believe this about weddings; I mean, you know who was invited, right?

My dad used to meet a group of his high school buddies for breakfast atChick-fil-Atwice a week.

Warm Cheese Box Bites

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“His friends from Chick-fil-A!”

and a smiley face were written next to them.

We tell great stories and make good toasts, both handy skills in mourning a loved one.

We make even cold cuts look special by transferring them to a silver platter.

We don’t think 8:30 a.m. is too early for a Bloody Mary.

Southerners Show Up

I can’t tell you what to do for the service.

I hope someone remembers to fly me down for mine.

These bite-size morsels combine the comfort of warm cheese toast with the elegance of tiny cheese souffles.