These pointers will make you the MVP attendeeand help you score an invitation again!
for more than 27 years.
However, some things are timeless, and they’re justplain good manners."
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So we tapped several manners-minded experts to share their topdinner party guest tips.
9 Things to Stop Doing When You’re a Dinner Party Guest
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Call or text to ask the host: “Can I help you?
Do you need me to cook anything?
Can I arrive a little early to help you set up?”
Is there anything that you need me to pick up?'
These advanced questions really help," Headlee says.
If you’re unsure, reply with your RSVP or reach out to the host to ask.
“One of the rudest moves any guest can do is show up with an extra surprise guest.
“This unspoken rule is one I picked up while living abroad in France.
Don’t arrive empty handed
If you’re curious about if you shouldbring something, “YES.
Bring a host gift,” Perotti confirms.
The worst things to bring are items that are presumptive, Headlee says.
We often make choices aboutwhat gift to bringby thinking “What would I want as a host gift?”
“Do this and you will be moved to ‘genius’ status!”
Conversations go both ways.
“Don’t talk about yourself the whole time,“DuChene says.
“Instead, give a shot to get people to share information about themselves by asking open-ended questions.
This helps break the ice for strangers and builds stronger relationships.
It’s the best networking tool I have ever learned.”
“Someone has spent a lot of time designing an evening for you, so go with the flow.
The host will ideally know to ask in advance or have various options for dishes available.
If you could’t eat something, it’s okay to quietly ask what is in something.
“Your offer may be turned down, which seems to be the standard reply.
So, this is your opportunity to insist.
Let your host know that you want them to enjoy time with their guests as well.”
The work will be done quicker, and afterwards you all can relax together, he says.
Don’t forget to have a good time
Don’t getcaught up in formal etiquette, Headlee warns.
“Be compassionate, kind, and aware of what other people are doing or saying.
Don’t get wrapped up in yourself, and you will be okay,” Headlee says.
They want you to enjoy yourself.
For them it is a huge disappointment if someone doesn’t enjoy themselves.
Be mindful, be authentic, and most importantly, have fun, Perotti says.
Oh yes, andsend a thank-you note!
